Adult dating – the seven facts that will surprise you and keep you awake at night. You’ll be surprised at what I unearthed…
I know why you’re here. You know why you’re here. What’s the point in any of us pretending that you’re not looking for no strings attached sex, or casual sex with only the very hottest of women and men. That’s why you’re here, isn’t it? To explore some sort of fantasy that you have?
In fact, this brings me nicely to my first fact about adult dating that will keep you up at night… Let’s jump right on in!
1 – You can explore the very depths of your (and their) fantasies!
NSA or casual sex don’t require all the fluff and frills that regular sex and “dating” brings with it. You don’t need to impress anyone, except for in the bedroom, and for a lot of people, women in particular, sex with someone you don’t really have any intentions of seeing again can put a hold on may inhibitions that they may have had.
I never tried anal sex until my third ever NSA experience. I had met a super hot guy in a New Brighton bar in Port Elizabeth, and we had a few drinks together. I carried on drinking and dancing with my female friends for a while and at the end of the night, he came over and asked me if I wanted to go for a couple of drinks in another bar. We never made it to that other bar… In fact, we ended up at my place just around the corner.
I had been a little tipsy and the moment took us both and I let him do it… It opened some flood gates for me, and I found I actually quite enjoyed it, but I do believe I wouldn’t have ever done it if it hadn’t been for that night… or that guy! 😉
2 – It’s simpler.
It really is. When you go into a new sexual dalliance with someone that you have no expectations of, and don’t want a relationship with, you’ll generally find that the sex is pretty awesome. There’s a lot less in the way of nerves and if it all goes wrong, who cares? You don’t need to see this person again if you don’t want to. There are plenty more fish in the sea, as they say.
3 – Online opens more doors!
If you thought you were successfully at casual NSA dating now, wait until you have tried your hands at the internet dating world. Yes, that’s right – there are a whole bunch of websites that are designed to help you find the perfect date tonight, NSA fun or not. A few minutes signing up and you will be able to scroll your way through a whole bunch of hotties, giving you more options than ever before! Check out lookingforsex.co.za – lots of sexy ZA men and women looking for sex meets and the like.
4 – Meet in public!
This should go without saying really, but if you find yourself a hot date for tonight and plan on having a good time, make sure that you always meet in an open place, in broad daylight, and your friends know where you are going, what you are doing, and where you plan to be heading later on. Safety is key. It’s not rocket science stuff.
5 – The more you learn, the better it’ll be.
That’s right – the more questions you ask her, and the more you try to learn, the more you will learn. This applies to the women out there too – the more questions you ask, the better things will be. Everyone likes something a little different in the bedroom, so you need to take into account that the partner you are enjoying tonight won’t be the same as the partner you enjoyed last night, or last weekend. “Do you like this?” is a good one to ask when trying something new. They’ll soon let you know what the deal is!
6 – Be open minded!
Remember that a lot of people choose to enjoy a lot of different things in the bedroom, so as well as being able to learn and open your mind to new ideas and sexual experiences, you may come across things that you won’t like all that much. For example, if they want to pop a finger into your bum and you’ve never done it before, and don’t want to do it, you have a big decision to make. Never feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do, but at the same time, make sure that you try your hands at something new every once in a while. It won’t hurt! (Much!)
7 – Boyfriends/Girlfriends are out!
I’ll make things simple for you – NSA and casual sex means NOT acting like a boyfriend or a girlfriend. The person you have in your bed right now is more than likely having sex with more than just you, and is likely to leave your bed tonight and find another bed to climb into tomorrow, or next weekend. If you’re the jealous kind, NSA fun probably won’t work for you. There’s a good chance that this WON’T develop into a relationship, regardless of how great your sex is, so save yourself the heartache and remember that this is for your sex life, not your love life!