What Everyone Is Saying About Adult Dating

If you’ve heard the myths about adult dating, you’re likely to be put off. Here are the biggest myths everyone is saying about adult dating, and the real truth behind them!

Adult dating – it’s naughty, dirty, seedy, only there as a way for married men to cheat on their wives, and stupid young lads to sow their wild oats. We’ve all heard the myths about adult dating, right? Those dirty little things that people say about it – people that have probably never tried it, or enjoyed the delights it can bring, ever before in their lives. It’s funny how people that haven’t actually tried it can have such an opinion on things, isn’t it?

Here are the biggest and best myths I’ve come across as I’ve chosen to adult date, and the REAL truth behind them…

“Women can’t do NSA sex. It’s not in their nature.”

Really? It isn’t in our nature? I met a guy in a popular mid-city Cape Town bar three nights ago and took him home for a night of the hottest, sweatiest, mind-blowing sex I’ve ever had… We didn’t exchange numbers, and I’m pretty sure he said he didn’t live around here. I have no intentions of seeing him again, yet I had sex with him. What was it those other people said? Women can’t do NSA or casual sex? I’m living proof that they can, surely?

Not all the girls out there are looking for hearts and flowers, chocolates and big romantic gestures. Some of us need a good hard screwing just like you guys do, in fact more so sometimes. Just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean I’m going to fall in love with you and want to have your children.

“Relationships can’t be started from NSA sex…”

Well, once again, this is a myth. Take my friend Amie, for example. She met her “better half” (as she calls him) on a South African adult dating, no strings attached dating website four years ago. They have been married for two years and are currently expecting their first child. Again, this is a prime example of how easily misconstrued adult dating can be.

Just because the people looking for casual sex don’t want to settle down, doesn’t mean they won’t always want to settle down. If you’re the perfect people for each other, of course it will work. Amie and her better half had great luck and great timing… It just goes to show that things can go either way.

“Adult daters spread diseases”

Actually this is most definitely not true, and in fact, this statement makes me incredibly mad. This was a comment left on an adult dating blog I came across, and I left a furious rebuttal, as you can probably imagine.

Adult daters spread diseases? What a ridiculous thing for someone to say. Adult daters know better than anyone the dangers of STI’s and unsafe sex… That’s why they are better at it, and have even managed to make putting on a condom look sexy! Maybe it’s those non-adult daters that should be taking tips from the adult daters?

I’ve heard a lot of things from friends, family, work colleagues, and even people I don’t know as I’ve made my way through South African dating websites, clubs, bars, supermarkets, and even gyms picking up men that I have the best and horniest sex with… I like to think I’m as good a person as any to put an end to the lies and taboo subjects. What do you think? Are there any you think I may have missed out? I’m sure this will create a debate 😉

The Truth About No Strings Sex

No strings sex gives you the chance to explore the very crevices of your sexual fantasies… But without safe sex, things may turn a little sour!

Come on boys and girls… It’s time to talk serious. If you’re going to head around all the hottest clubs and casual sex dating sites in South Africa, looking for only the best and most beautiful hot women for NSA fun and casual sex, you need to be serious about your health… Are you having SAFE sex? We know you’re having enough sex – with NSA websites popping up all over the place, you can’t help but be intrigued by the casual sex world. Are you really having safe sex?

When you think about it, you don’t really know how many people you’re having sex with. This might be an odd thought but think about it in this way – you could be having sex with the note chick that you met in that Riversdale bar, but she could be having sex with a guy from Somerset West, another guy in Prince Albert, and who knows how many more? If you’re not having safe sex, you’re technically coming into sexual contact with all of those people.

I want you to have fun, but I want you to have safe fun.

An STI, as awful as it may seem to bring up when you’re out trawling for beautiful hot women, or amazingly ripped hot men, will put an end to your sexual experiences. You don’t want anything coming out or going in that shouldn’t be, so it makes sense to bag up if you’re going to spread it around.

Let’s consider those lovely men and women that are looking for a little something extra-curricular from their “regular” relationship…. It’s not going to be nice having to explain to a loved one that they have managed to catch something from their secret infidelities. When you consider that you are meant to tell everyone that you have come into sexual contact with, things could get more than a little awkward. It just makes sense to use contraception like condoms as you are going about your business.

The thing is there are still ways to make condoms sexy. We’ve all heard the horror stories – your penis will go flaccid, she becomes disinterested, it ruins the moment, etc. It doesn’t need to ruin the moment, or do any of those things, if you learn to put a little spin on things. Girls – why not spice things up by learning to put a condom on with your mouth. Guys could learn how to do it while still kissing and caressing her body at the same time. There are ways to make this work, and one thing I would always recommend is to practice. Sounds ridiculous but you know what they say – practice makes perfect! 😉

At the end of the day, it’s up to you what you get up to behind closed doors and in actual fact, I would encourage you to explore your sexuality as best you can. However, at the same time, give your health a little thought. You would throw yourself under a bus or a train without a second thought, so why would you choose to play Russian Roulette with your sexual health?

The truth about no strings sex…. Safe sex is better, and ensures more fun!

Oops Casual Sex Dating Mistakes How To Avoid Them

We all make mistakes in the dating world – that’s the whole point of it. You make mistakes and learn from them, going on ahead to have better, more fulfilling relationships and sexual dalliances. That’s the idea anyway… Many of us simply don’t learn from our mistakes.

As a 30-something woman living in South Africa, I have made many dating mistakes, especially on my quest to find someone cool and casual to date. In between enjoying the sun, exploring my beautiful country, trying to maintain a busy working schedule and still having enough time to see the family and keep them happy, I don’t really have time for a “real” relationship. This is the thing about casual dating – it’s not the same as “real” dating, as in dating to find that happy-ever-after… That’s something I wish someone would have told me right at the beginning.

As a single woman, having a fair amount of sexual partners will get you branded with some rather nasty names. This is the first lesson you learn – the first mistake that a lot of men and women make when they delve into the complicated world of casual sex dating. Who’d have thought that sex would have been just as political as relationships?

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This is the first lesson you should learn – be discreet!

What’s the point in shouting about last night’s conquest? You may have met that beautiful man in the Cape Town city center night club and taken him home, but you probably won’t have any intentions of seeing him again, so what’s the point in talking about it? It’s certainly not something you are going to want to bring up with your family or respectable friends… casual dating is something that not everyone accepts.

The second lesson you should learn – broaden your horizons!

I’ve mentioned meeting a guy in a bar and having a great night with him, but there are so many other places that you can meet men (and women) looking for casual, no-strings-attached sex in South Africa. For example, there are a whole host of websites dedicated to finding horny men and women the partner they are looking for… without all the hassle of being open and honest about what they are actually looking for. If you are both on a nsa sex dating site, you are both looking for casual dating, AKA casual sex. What’s the point in opting for the “regular” run-of-the-mill dating websites? You aren’t looking for love, you’re looking for great sex, right?

You could meet the hottest, cutest men and women in the biggest and best South African nightclubs, bars and pubs, but let’s be honest about this; no man is going to openly admit to a woman on the first night they have met that he is just looking for sex tonight. To be honest, the chances of a female offering the same information on the “first date” is slim to none. At least with these casual sex and casual dating websites, you know exactly what you are getting yourself into. There are no misinterpretations, no misread signs, and no mixed messages.

There are a lot of things about casual dating and casual sex relationships that aren’t like “regular” relationships, and this is often overlooked information when you attempt to try your hand at it for the first few times. The trick is to be discreet, be classy and above all else, have fun. What’s the point in doing it otherwise? 😉

Thousands Of People Reveal What Really Turns Them On About NSA Sex

With thousands of people looking for NSA sex, its time to look at what really works about it… what really turns them on!

These days, we don’t have time for proper relationships, right? We have busy work schedules to try and maintain, family to see, places to explore, people to see, etc. By the time most of us have come home from work, cooked ourselves a spot of dinner, and had a shower, it’s so late, the only thing left to do is crawl into bed at the end of a long day, and enjoy a night of uninterrupted sleep. Well,… that’s what we try to do anyway, right?

What about those people that don’t want to settle for crawling into bed alone at the end of a long day? What about those people that want someone to have great, fulfilling, passionate sex with at the end of a long day? If they don’t have time to fit in a relationship, does it mean that they don’t have time to fit in sex?

It hardly seems fair, does it?

Take Jane, for example. She works in busy Cape Town and needs to drive at least an hour to get home every night. She works five, sometimes six days per week, trying to better her career, and she doesn’t have any kids, and isn’t married. When she gets home on a Friday night, she isn’t looking for someone to cuddle up with, cook breakfast for in the morning, and have small talk with over brunch. She doesn’t have time for that. She’s looking for someone that she can use and abuse – someone that makes life easy for her. He’s in, he’s out, and no one is making anyone breakfast. That’s what she’s looking for… I asked her why?

“I use a casual dating website. It’s hard work finding guys in bars because once you tell them you are looking for NSA fun, they lose respect for you. I’m not degrading myself with casual sex… It’s fulfilling a need. Just like guys go to prostitutes!”

In Jane’s situation, NSA sex is a turn on because she gets exactly what she needs, without needing to worry about the relationship afterwards. She simply doesn’t have time for all that fluff.

Sandy, on the other hand, has plenty of time on her hands. She’s 30-something, works part time, doesn’t have any kids either, but isn’t looking for a relationship. She was married before but now, she wants to be young, free and single… while still enjoying the benefits of sex. Again, I asked her why she chose casual dating/sex?

“You can do whatever you want when you aren’t going to see the guy again. Even if you are, that’s all you want from each other – sex. You can do things that you wouldn’t have done with your husband or long term partner, and even if your casual partner does raise an eyebrow, you can pass them over and look for another one… It’s like fantasy fulfillment!”

In Sandy’s case, she was looking for someone to explore ALL of her sexual needs. She wanted to try all those things she never had the balls to try with her ex-husband – things like anal sex, exhibitionism and more. There’s a lot less pressure to do things the “right” way when you have no intentions of long term dating the person you are enjoying in the bedroom, and you will be more likely to have the kind of sex you want, rather then just having sex because you’re “meant to” in a partnership. She signed up with a site called girlsforsex.co.za – yeah right – no beating about the bush (excuse the pun) there then!

Of course, you can’t take into account the female perspective without taking into account the male one also. I spoke to one of Jane’s “conquests” and asked him what he liked about NSA sex… To be honest, the response was exactly what we thought it might be:

“NSA sex is perfect. You can have sex with multiple women. One woman might be great at giving head while another is great at doing it doggy style. You get the best of EVERY world – it’s as though there are no real limits!”

With more and more people opting for more casual styles of dating all over the world and not just within South Africa, it makes sense that more and more casual dating debits are popping up. After all, there wouldn’t be a demand for them otherwise, would there? Why not have a look yourself and see what naughty stuff you can get up to?

How To Get Casual Sex When You Want It

The truth on how and where to get casual sex in South Africa without needing to trawl bars for drunk girls and guys…

Ever wondered how those men and women manage to go out and get casual sex whenever they damn well feel like it? I was always hearing from male friends about how they went out to a Port Elizabeth club, “pulled” this super-fit chick, took her home, ravaged her something rotten, and then kicked her out before the morning light even hit, without even the slightest mention of ever seeing or speaking to them again.

Once upon a time, I used to wonder how these guys did stuff like that, and it was only when I ventured into the world of casual sex, and how to get it, that I realized it wasn’t just guys doing the dirty, it would seem.

Casual sex is something that often proves quite difficult to get your hands on. Some guys, for example, may think it’s immoral to take home a random, drunk hot chick home from the local Cape Town bar they happened to bounce into that night. Believe it or not, there are guys that don’t believe in this way of finding casual sex… There are some good guys out there after all, it would appear! 🙂

At the same time, the ladies aren’t entirely comfortable with the idea of taking a random guy home from a club… They are never sure whether they are the real deal or an axe murderer/weirdo/mugger/etc.

To be fair, it’s not the kind of conversation you can have in a busy night club, is it?

“Hi fit chick, what are you up to once the club kicks out? I only live around the corner in Hout Bay, and I’d love to take you home for the night. NSA… What do you think?”

It’s hardly a conversation that would go down well with a respectable young lady, is it? Well, perhaps not respectable but you don’t know that yet!

Of course, as much as you may think that taking a drunk girl home might be immoral, striking up a conversation with her is not. You might not want to take her home tonight, because of the situation, but if you give it a couple of days and let her get over her hangover, and that beautiful wild child might just be the girl you are looking for. Just because you’re not interested tonight, doesn’t mean that you won’t be interested, and you won’t get what you want, at a later date. There’s no harm in swapping numbers, and if it turns out that she’s in a relationship/looking for a relationship/not looking for NSA fun, you can respectfully decline the date invitation and move on.

The internet is the perfect place to start when it comes to looking for casual sex or NSA fun in South Africa. And before you argue that a lot of the websites are scams, they aren’t. You just need to pay attention to WHAT sites you are signing up to. If it looks a bit dodgy, it probably is. That’s all I’m saying.

These websites are SPECIFICALLY designed to help men and women looking for NSA, casual sex in South Africa… What’s the point in them being there to help you and you not using them? All it takes is a few minutes of sign-up questions and you’ll be looking through hot foxes and delicious ab-ed men, all waiting to be used and abused by you tonight… One of my favourites is a site called Looking For Sex – which is full of guys and girls looking for action in South Africa! What are you waiting for?

How Casual Dating Can Help You Live A Better Life

Casual dating – you can save money, have more time, and even better your health. Don’t believe us? Find out how casual dating could help you live a better life.

Imagine how easy life would be if you didn’t have a girlfriend/wife/husband/boyfriend/family to think about? Imagine all those hours you would have to yourself instead of waiting around outside of changing rooms while your girlfriend tries on dress after dress in the local Cape Town mall, each one looking exactly the same as the one before. How much more time would you have to yourself if you didn’t have to work two jobs to maintain that loving family you created? What about the times you spent watching your boyfriend play games on the latest console that he simply MUST buy?

Let’s face it – if we didn’t have to worry about someone else all the time, we’d have a lot more time to ourselves, wouldn’t we?

Imagine what you could do with all of that extra time you have on your hands… You could finally sign up to that gym you’ve been talking about for months. Well, years. Almost decades in reality.

You could go shopping more, or have a better closet. Or both. You’d have more time to spend working on the car/house/your tan/traveling/etc.

When you think about it, these single people have gotten things all figured out, haven’t they? They aren’t stupid. Imagine the time those single people have to lather on themselves.

Jamie was married to a lovely woman, and they had a kid together. They both started to let themselves go after a couple of years of marriage, and didn’t have time to enjoy life. They worked, looked after the home, provided for the children, and that’s it. Their life was a blur of paying bills, soccer games, school parent’s evenings, working too many hours to pay the mortgage and afford to repair the broken boiler once again, and in general, things became tough for them.

They broke up and Jamie started to hang around with John. John was a serial womanizer – he only indulged in NSA sex, always had time to go to the gym, regularly frequented only the hottest bars and clubs in South Africa – the ones were all the celebs were papped, and Jamie started to follow along with the way that John lived his life. He started going to the gym, and because he was out “dating” with John, (which basically means picking up hot women for NSA fun) he tried to keep himself looking in tip-top condition, which means that he kept up with his gym routine, got a better closet, and started taking care of himself.

He stopped boozing quite so much, choosing to drink bottle water in the club rather than getting bladdered, and he even managed to quit smoking because a girl once told him he smelt like an ashtray. Because he had to impress someone all of a sudden, he kept himself looking good, which in turn, had a much better effect on his health.

I’m not saying that all married men should go out and leave their wives. All I’m doing is giving you a prime example of why single people are healthier than married people. Married people have a tenancy to let themselves go, and if you aren’t careful, you can easily find yourself in a rut. You won’t get away with letting yourself go when you consider yourself to be a casual dater in South Africa – there are far too many other beautiful people that you are competing against, and unless you are something a little special with a little something unique to offer, you won’t find yourself standing out above the rest.

Of course, there are two sides to every story, but we aren’t going to mention my friend Malcolm, who has been single for over five years and has SERIOUSLY let himself go. He tries to hit on me every now and again but… well, as I said, he just doesn’t stand out! 😉 You can find him now on a wonderful dating site called South African Soulmates! Too romantic for me, but perfect if you are looking for a serious relationship. I wish Malcolm luck, but he had better clean up his act first, as that site is full of gorgeous, fit ZA women, looking for love.

7 Facts About Adult Dating Thatll Keep You Up At Night

Adult dating – the seven facts that will surprise you and keep you awake at night. You’ll be surprised at what I unearthed…

I know why you’re here. You know why you’re here. What’s the point in any of us pretending that you’re not looking for no strings attached sex, or casual sex with only the very hottest of women and men. That’s why you’re here, isn’t it? To explore some sort of fantasy that you have?

In fact, this brings me nicely to my first fact about adult dating that will keep you up at night… Let’s jump right on in!

1 – You can explore the very depths of your (and their) fantasies!

NSA or casual sex don’t require all the fluff and frills that regular sex and “dating” brings with it. You don’t need to impress anyone, except for in the bedroom, and for a lot of people, women in particular, sex with someone you don’t really have any intentions of seeing again can put a hold on may inhibitions that they may have had.

I never tried anal sex until my third ever NSA experience. I had met a super hot guy in a New Brighton bar in Port Elizabeth, and we had a few drinks together. I carried on drinking and dancing with my female friends for a while and at the end of the night, he came over and asked me if I wanted to go for a couple of drinks in another bar. We never made it to that other bar… In fact, we ended up at my place just around the corner.

I had been a little tipsy and the moment took us both and I let him do it… It opened some flood gates for me, and I found I actually quite enjoyed it, but I do believe I wouldn’t have ever done it if it hadn’t been for that night… or that guy! 😉

2 – It’s simpler.

It really is. When you go into a new sexual dalliance with someone that you have no expectations of, and don’t want a relationship with, you’ll generally find that the sex is pretty awesome. There’s a lot less in the way of nerves and if it all goes wrong, who cares? You don’t need to see this person again if you don’t want to. There are plenty more fish in the sea, as they say.

3 – Online opens more doors!

If you thought you were successfully at casual NSA dating now, wait until you have tried your hands at the internet dating world. Yes, that’s right – there are a whole bunch of websites that are designed to help you find the perfect date tonight, NSA fun or not. A few minutes signing up and you will be able to scroll your way through a whole bunch of hotties, giving you more options than ever before! Check out lookingforsex.co.za – lots of sexy ZA men and women looking for sex meets and the like.

4 – Meet in public!

This should go without saying really, but if you find yourself a hot date for tonight and plan on having a good time, make sure that you always meet in an open place, in broad daylight, and your friends know where you are going, what you are doing, and where you plan to be heading later on. Safety is key. It’s not rocket science stuff.

5 – The more you learn, the better it’ll be.

That’s right – the more questions you ask her, and the more you try to learn, the more you will learn. This applies to the women out there too – the more questions you ask, the better things will be. Everyone likes something a little different in the bedroom, so you need to take into account that the partner you are enjoying tonight won’t be the same as the partner you enjoyed last night, or last weekend. “Do you like this?” is a good one to ask when trying something new. They’ll soon let you know what the deal is!

6 – Be open minded!

Remember that a lot of people choose to enjoy a lot of different things in the bedroom, so as well as being able to learn and open your mind to new ideas and sexual experiences, you may come across things that you won’t like all that much. For example, if they want to pop a finger into your bum and you’ve never done it before, and don’t want to do it, you have a big decision to make. Never feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do, but at the same time, make sure that you try your hands at something new every once in a while. It won’t hurt! (Much!)

7 – Boyfriends/Girlfriends are out!

I’ll make things simple for you – NSA and casual sex means NOT acting like a boyfriend or a girlfriend. The person you have in your bed right now is more than likely having sex with more than just you, and is likely to leave your bed tonight and find another bed to climb into tomorrow, or next weekend. If you’re the jealous kind, NSA fun probably won’t work for you. There’s a good chance that this WON’T develop into a relationship, regardless of how great your sex is, so save yourself the heartache and remember that this is for your sex life, not your love life!

5 Things That Wont Happen On Sex Dates

A sex date – the easy way of dating with no commitment, no fluff, and no misleading over-analyzing. These are the biggest things that probably won’t happen on your sex dates!

Let’s face things with a head-on approach here, shall we? Sex dates aren’t the same as “regular” dates… I mean, yes there’s the nervousness that you’d have on a first date, but that’s excited butterflies as you know you will be taking that person home later on, and there’s a good chance you’ll be ripping their shirt clean off with your teeth. But at the same time, sex dates, NSA dates, casual dates; whatever it is that you want to call them, are very different.

1 – It doesn’t really matter anyway…

For most women, well for me anyway, it doesn’t really matter what you do on this sex date, as long as you aren’t an idiot, getting drunk and running all the way around Port Elizabeth with your trousers around your ankles, or look significantly different from your profile picture. It doesn’t matter if there are moments where you fall over, or slip over on your own trousers.

When I asked a male friend that I haven’t slept with, but been with on casual dates, he said pretty much the same thing. Guys who are looking for girls for sex, don’t generally mind what you’re like, as long as you put out later on and don’t make a complete fool of yourself.

So, be yourself is the moral of the story. Be yourself, and don’t be an idiot.

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2 – They won’t want breakfast…

Again, when asking both sexes, the general consensus is that they would rather wake up to find their date gone, than make breakfast and indulge in small talk. I’m exactly the same. Waking up alone with a scribbled “thank you” on the back of an envelope is all I need. A cheeky phone number might even get you a callback if you were good enough last night. I don’t even really need your name.

Most of the casual dates I’ve been on have resulted in me waking up to an empty bed. I like the “thank you” note… It’s amazing how few men actually do it. That’s a hint guys!

3 – Age doesn’t come into it…

I’ve slept with older men, younger men, and men my own age. When asking around the friends I have that enjoy NSA dating, they work in the same pattern. If the sexual chemistry is there, it’s there. It doesn’t matter how many years are between you. I’ve had the best sex of my life with both a 45 year old man, and a 19 year old lad. Age is just a number. You’ll be amazed at the age differences that can go on in casual dating.

4 – You won’t have to hide…

Your inhibitions? You can say goodbye to those when you go on a casual sex date. When I don’t think I’m going to see the person again, I don’t care what happens between the sheets. Who cares if I let him put it in my ass, even though that’s not what good girls do? Who cares if I accidentally shout out bad words right as a I climax, dragging my nails down his rippling back as I do so? It doesn’t matter. You’re never going to see them again. And if you do, it’s just an added bonus!

It works both ways – men AND women are more likely to do things they wouldn’t do with a “regular” partner when they go on casual sex dates. That’s the whole point of going on a sex date in the first place – to get your rocks off! 😉

5 – You won’t remember “real life”…

The wife you may have at home? There’s a good chance you won’t remember her later on tonight. The boyfriend you’ve left in your bed looking after the puppy he bought you? Yeah, you probably won’t be thinking about him later. For some people, the act of casual dating and NSA dates, especially when you are already in a relationship, is the act of relief because something is missing from your home life. That’s why you can’t stay the night. That’s what you don’t want to know their name or phone number. In fact, it doesn’t matter what your real life” is, whether it’s a partner, money troubles, stress or work issues, you won’t remember; you’ll be having mind-blowing sex with someone that quite literally won’t cause you any hassle at all.

What’s not to love about that?

What Wikipedia Wont Tell You About Casual Sex

Casual sex – it’s popular but still taboo. Find out the things that Wikipedia definitely won’t tell you about casual sex!

Wikipedia might be the biggest wealth of knowledge on the internet, but there are a few things it won’t and can’t tell you. Take casual sex for example; there’s a family-friendly clause that stops casual sex truths being spread all over the internet. Thankfully, I’ve come up with a few things that you will need to know before you start! 😉

You are going to come across dogs!

Right guys and girls, I’m going to get straight to the point. It doesn’t matter whether you are using South African online dating websites designed for adult dating or NSA fun, or you are trawling the bars for drunk men and women to have a night of unbridled passion with, you are going to come across people that you wouldn’t necessarily touch with a ten foot barge pole.

On the internet alone, I have received messages from some of the most weird and wonderful people, some of which intrigued me, and some of which totally freaked me out. Sadly, that’s something you’re going to need to come to terms with. You are likely to come across a lot of people that you wouldn’t look at twice before you find someone you’d like to get to know in greater detail.

The trick is to say no to these godawful people without actually offending them. They may not be attractive to you, but there is a good chance that they will have a friend hidden someone in the shadows that might be perfect for you… for one night anyway! 😉

“Hi, thanks for your message but I’m already talking to someone, and I think it would be inappropriate for me to message two people at once right now” will win most girls (and guys) over anytime. You sound respectful, and it’s a really nice “no” to hear. It’s not difficult – just don’t be rude. You don’t want to give yourself a name before you’ve even started.

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You won’t be the sexual star you think you are!

When you first delve into the world of adult dating, one of the first things you will soon learn is the fact that you are not as good in bed as you think you are. Different people will want different things in bed, and there is a pretty good chance that you’re not going to get it right every time. If you play your cards right and open your mind enough to learn about what really gets your latest bit of stuff likes in bed, you might come out of it looking like a superstar. If you don’t, you’re going to be branded as “bad in bed”. And that’s a brand you won’t want!

You’re not going to get as inundated with messages as you think you are!

Sorry boys and girls – you are not everyone’s “cup of tea”. You could be the juiciest peach in the world and you will always come across someone that doesn’t like peaches, that’s all I’m saying. You are going to face rejection from time to time, and there will be days when you don’t get any messages. Just imagine how many other guys or girls from the region of South Africa you live in are signed up to the same adult dating site. There will always be competition – think of this as healthy competition and just make sure that your profile is as bling-tastic as it can be, and you will be well on your way to reeling in the hotties!

The Unconventional Guide To Casual Sex

Looking for a hand with your casual sex life? Do you seem to be getting wrong? Check out the unconventional guide to casual sex – it really will help change your luck!

Right – this is a guide more for guys than girls, simply because I’ve been on the receiving end and feel that I am at liberty to tell the truth here, for the sake of all women all over the world and not just in South Africa. There are things that guys do wrong in the world of casual sex in every country I’ve ever had the pleasure of exploring, and trust me; there has been a few.

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Here is my unconventional guide to casual sex… The things that guys (and probably girls) should know!

1 – Don’t ever lead them on.

There are a few things that you DEFINITELY don’t say when you are in a casual sex dating relationship. For example, “I really enjoy your company” is taking things much further than sex. Whether you are male or female, be a straight-shooter and give your ideas away upfront.

Other things that you probably shouldn’t say will include:

• “I can’t wait to see you again!” – Replace “see” with “screw” and you’re fine.
• “I want to get to know the “real” you” – No you don’t. If you did, you’d be looking for a relationship, and we’ve already established that neither of us want that… haven’t we?
• “Why don’t we see where things go?” – Let’s not, shall we? When we were in that Port Elizabeth bar, I told you straight that this would be a NSA kinda thing. What gave you the impression I wanted more?

Guys – one thing you should NEVER say to a woman is “I don’t think I’m capable of loving someone”. Bunny-boiler girls will consider this a challenge and will accept it with gusto.

There’s nothing wrong with just telling it like it is, you know? A simple “You’re freaking hot, when can I bone you again?” will often do the trick with me! 😉

2 – Don’t go on a date.

Drinks and dinner is okay, but anything more than this and you’re almost friends, which basically means you’re almost in a relationship. Bowling? Why would you want to go bowling? Cinema? No thanks. A walk around the local zoo? What are we? Five years old again?

I don’t want to date the casual men I invite into my life, and you’ll probably find that most dedicated casual daters will be thinking along the same lines. What’s the point? You might as well just go out and get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend, right? Stop dating. Get to the point. If it’s romance you’re looking for, you’re not meant to be looking for it here.

3 – Don’t pick a wrong’un.

Right, if you choose your ex to be your new casual dater, you’re doing it wrong. You’re already emotionally attached at this stage, and to say that they are an ex will generally mean that you have gone through a breakup. What’s the point in dredging up all that drama again?

In fact, there are a few people that you should avoid if you are looking for REAL NSA fun including the following:

• Anyone you work with… awkward!
• Proper friends of the opposite sex – if they are a proper friend, don’t ruin it.
• A proper “nutter” – you know the type, everyone says that they are mental. It could be the bunny-boiler girl, or the mental guy form that one popular bar in Port Elizabeth that you come across once – he falls in love with women at the drop of a hat so clearly, he’s a bad idea.
• Anyone that already has a “thing” for you. I refer back to point one – you are clearly leading this person on.

So there you have it – the unconventional guide to adult dating and casual sex. What more could you ask for? It’s honest, after all 😉