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What Wikipedia Wont Tell You About Casual Sex

Casual sex – it’s popular but still taboo. Find out the things that Wikipedia definitely won’t tell you about casual sex!

Wikipedia might be the biggest wealth of knowledge on the internet, but there are a few things it won’t and can’t tell you. Take casual sex for example; there’s a family-friendly clause that stops casual sex truths being spread all over the internet. Thankfully, I’ve come up with a few things that you will need to know before you start! 😉

You are going to come across dogs!

Right guys and girls, I’m going to get straight to the point. It doesn’t matter whether you are using South African online dating websites designed for adult dating or NSA fun, or you are trawling the bars for drunk men and women to have a night of unbridled passion with, you are going to come across people that you wouldn’t necessarily touch with a ten foot barge pole.

On the internet alone, I have received messages from some of the most weird and wonderful people, some of which intrigued me, and some of which totally freaked me out. Sadly, that’s something you’re going to need to come to terms with. You are likely to come across a lot of people that you wouldn’t look at twice before you find someone you’d like to get to know in greater detail.

The trick is to say no to these godawful people without actually offending them. They may not be attractive to you, but there is a good chance that they will have a friend hidden someone in the shadows that might be perfect for you… for one night anyway! 😉

“Hi, thanks for your message but I’m already talking to someone, and I think it would be inappropriate for me to message two people at once right now” will win most girls (and guys) over anytime. You sound respectful, and it’s a really nice “no” to hear. It’s not difficult – just don’t be rude. You don’t want to give yourself a name before you’ve even started.

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You won’t be the sexual star you think you are!

When you first delve into the world of adult dating, one of the first things you will soon learn is the fact that you are not as good in bed as you think you are. Different people will want different things in bed, and there is a pretty good chance that you’re not going to get it right every time. If you play your cards right and open your mind enough to learn about what really gets your latest bit of stuff likes in bed, you might come out of it looking like a superstar. If you don’t, you’re going to be branded as “bad in bed”. And that’s a brand you won’t want!

You’re not going to get as inundated with messages as you think you are!

Sorry boys and girls – you are not everyone’s “cup of tea”. You could be the juiciest peach in the world and you will always come across someone that doesn’t like peaches, that’s all I’m saying. You are going to face rejection from time to time, and there will be days when you don’t get any messages. Just imagine how many other guys or girls from the region of South Africa you live in are signed up to the same adult dating site. There will always be competition – think of this as healthy competition and just make sure that your profile is as bling-tastic as it can be, and you will be well on your way to reeling in the hotties!

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The Unconventional Guide To Casual Sex

Looking for a hand with your casual sex life? Do you seem to be getting wrong? Check out the unconventional guide to casual sex – it really will help change your luck!

Right – this is a guide more for guys than girls, simply because I’ve been on the receiving end and feel that I am at liberty to tell the truth here, for the sake of all women all over the world and not just in South Africa. There are things that guys do wrong in the world of casual sex in every country I’ve ever had the pleasure of exploring, and trust me; there has been a few.

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Here is my unconventional guide to casual sex… The things that guys (and probably girls) should know!

1 – Don’t ever lead them on.

There are a few things that you DEFINITELY don’t say when you are in a casual sex dating relationship. For example, “I really enjoy your company” is taking things much further than sex. Whether you are male or female, be a straight-shooter and give your ideas away upfront.

Other things that you probably shouldn’t say will include:

• “I can’t wait to see you again!” – Replace “see” with “screw” and you’re fine.
• “I want to get to know the “real” you” – No you don’t. If you did, you’d be looking for a relationship, and we’ve already established that neither of us want that… haven’t we?
• “Why don’t we see where things go?” – Let’s not, shall we? When we were in that Port Elizabeth bar, I told you straight that this would be a NSA kinda thing. What gave you the impression I wanted more?

Guys – one thing you should NEVER say to a woman is “I don’t think I’m capable of loving someone”. Bunny-boiler girls will consider this a challenge and will accept it with gusto.

There’s nothing wrong with just telling it like it is, you know? A simple “You’re freaking hot, when can I bone you again?” will often do the trick with me! 😉

2 – Don’t go on a date.

Drinks and dinner is okay, but anything more than this and you’re almost friends, which basically means you’re almost in a relationship. Bowling? Why would you want to go bowling? Cinema? No thanks. A walk around the local zoo? What are we? Five years old again?

I don’t want to date the casual men I invite into my life, and you’ll probably find that most dedicated casual daters will be thinking along the same lines. What’s the point? You might as well just go out and get yourself a boyfriend or girlfriend, right? Stop dating. Get to the point. If it’s romance you’re looking for, you’re not meant to be looking for it here.

3 – Don’t pick a wrong’un.

Right, if you choose your ex to be your new casual dater, you’re doing it wrong. You’re already emotionally attached at this stage, and to say that they are an ex will generally mean that you have gone through a breakup. What’s the point in dredging up all that drama again?

In fact, there are a few people that you should avoid if you are looking for REAL NSA fun including the following:

• Anyone you work with… awkward!
• Proper friends of the opposite sex – if they are a proper friend, don’t ruin it.
• A proper “nutter” – you know the type, everyone says that they are mental. It could be the bunny-boiler girl, or the mental guy form that one popular bar in Port Elizabeth that you come across once – he falls in love with women at the drop of a hat so clearly, he’s a bad idea.
• Anyone that already has a “thing” for you. I refer back to point one – you are clearly leading this person on.

So there you have it – the unconventional guide to adult dating and casual sex. What more could you ask for? It’s honest, after all 😉

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Oops Casual Sex Dating Mistakes How To Avoid Them

We all make mistakes in the dating world – that’s the whole point of it. You make mistakes and learn from them, going on ahead to have better, more fulfilling relationships and sexual dalliances. That’s the idea anyway… Many of us simply don’t learn from our mistakes.

As a 30-something woman living in South Africa, I have made many dating mistakes, especially on my quest to find someone cool and casual to date. In between enjoying the sun, exploring my beautiful country, trying to maintain a busy working schedule and still having enough time to see the family and keep them happy, I don’t really have time for a “real” relationship. This is the thing about casual dating – it’s not the same as “real” dating, as in dating to find that happy-ever-after… That’s something I wish someone would have told me right at the beginning.

As a single woman, having a fair amount of sexual partners will get you branded with some rather nasty names. This is the first lesson you learn – the first mistake that a lot of men and women make when they delve into the complicated world of casual sex dating. Who’d have thought that sex would have been just as political as relationships?

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This is the first lesson you should learn – be discreet!

What’s the point in shouting about last night’s conquest? You may have met that beautiful man in the Cape Town city center night club and taken him home, but you probably won’t have any intentions of seeing him again, so what’s the point in talking about it? It’s certainly not something you are going to want to bring up with your family or respectable friends… casual dating is something that not everyone accepts.

The second lesson you should learn – broaden your horizons!

I’ve mentioned meeting a guy in a bar and having a great night with him, but there are so many other places that you can meet men (and women) looking for casual, no-strings-attached sex in South Africa. For example, there are a whole host of websites dedicated to finding horny men and women the partner they are looking for… without all the hassle of being open and honest about what they are actually looking for. If you are both on a nsa sex dating site, you are both looking for casual dating, AKA casual sex. What’s the point in opting for the “regular” run-of-the-mill dating websites? You aren’t looking for love, you’re looking for great sex, right?

You could meet the hottest, cutest men and women in the biggest and best South African nightclubs, bars and pubs, but let’s be honest about this; no man is going to openly admit to a woman on the first night they have met that he is just looking for sex tonight. To be honest, the chances of a female offering the same information on the “first date” is slim to none. At least with these casual sex and casual dating websites, you know exactly what you are getting yourself into. There are no misinterpretations, no misread signs, and no mixed messages.

There are a lot of things about casual dating and casual sex relationships that aren’t like “regular” relationships, and this is often overlooked information when you attempt to try your hand at it for the first few times. The trick is to be discreet, be classy and above all else, have fun. What’s the point in doing it otherwise? 😉

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How To Get Casual Sex When You Want It

The truth on how and where to get casual sex in South Africa without needing to trawl bars for drunk girls and guys…

Ever wondered how those men and women manage to go out and get casual sex whenever they damn well feel like it? I was always hearing from male friends about how they went out to a Port Elizabeth club, “pulled” this super-fit chick, took her home, ravaged her something rotten, and then kicked her out before the morning light even hit, without even the slightest mention of ever seeing or speaking to them again.

Once upon a time, I used to wonder how these guys did stuff like that, and it was only when I ventured into the world of casual sex, and how to get it, that I realized it wasn’t just guys doing the dirty, it would seem.

Casual sex is something that often proves quite difficult to get your hands on. Some guys, for example, may think it’s immoral to take home a random, drunk hot chick home from the local Cape Town bar they happened to bounce into that night. Believe it or not, there are guys that don’t believe in this way of finding casual sex… There are some good guys out there after all, it would appear! 🙂

At the same time, the ladies aren’t entirely comfortable with the idea of taking a random guy home from a club… They are never sure whether they are the real deal or an axe murderer/weirdo/mugger/etc.

To be fair, it’s not the kind of conversation you can have in a busy night club, is it?

“Hi fit chick, what are you up to once the club kicks out? I only live around the corner in Hout Bay, and I’d love to take you home for the night. NSA… What do you think?”

It’s hardly a conversation that would go down well with a respectable young lady, is it? Well, perhaps not respectable but you don’t know that yet!

Of course, as much as you may think that taking a drunk girl home might be immoral, striking up a conversation with her is not. You might not want to take her home tonight, because of the situation, but if you give it a couple of days and let her get over her hangover, and that beautiful wild child might just be the girl you are looking for. Just because you’re not interested tonight, doesn’t mean that you won’t be interested, and you won’t get what you want, at a later date. There’s no harm in swapping numbers, and if it turns out that she’s in a relationship/looking for a relationship/not looking for NSA fun, you can respectfully decline the date invitation and move on.

The internet is the perfect place to start when it comes to looking for casual sex or NSA fun in South Africa. And before you argue that a lot of the websites are scams, they aren’t. You just need to pay attention to WHAT sites you are signing up to. If it looks a bit dodgy, it probably is. That’s all I’m saying.

These websites are SPECIFICALLY designed to help men and women looking for NSA, casual sex in South Africa… What’s the point in them being there to help you and you not using them? All it takes is a few minutes of sign-up questions and you’ll be looking through hot foxes and delicious ab-ed men, all waiting to be used and abused by you tonight… One of my favourites is a site called Looking For Sex – which is full of guys and girls looking for action in South Africa! What are you waiting for?

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