What Everyone Is Saying About Adult Dating

If you’ve heard the myths about adult dating, you’re likely to be put off. Here are the biggest myths everyone is saying about adult dating, and the real truth behind them!

Adult dating – it’s naughty, dirty, seedy, only there as a way for married men to cheat on their wives, and stupid young lads to sow their wild oats. We’ve all heard the myths about adult dating, right? Those dirty little things that people say about it – people that have probably never tried it, or enjoyed the delights it can bring, ever before in their lives. It’s funny how people that haven’t actually tried it can have such an opinion on things, isn’t it?

Here are the biggest and best myths I’ve come across as I’ve chosen to adult date, and the REAL truth behind them…

“Women can’t do NSA sex. It’s not in their nature.”

Really? It isn’t in our nature? I met a guy in a popular mid-city Cape Town bar three nights ago and took him home for a night of the hottest, sweatiest, mind-blowing sex I’ve ever had… We didn’t exchange numbers, and I’m pretty sure he said he didn’t live around here. I have no intentions of seeing him again, yet I had sex with him. What was it those other people said? Women can’t do NSA or casual sex? I’m living proof that they can, surely?

Not all the girls out there are looking for hearts and flowers, chocolates and big romantic gestures. Some of us need a good hard screwing just like you guys do, in fact more so sometimes. Just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean I’m going to fall in love with you and want to have your children.

“Relationships can’t be started from NSA sex…”

Well, once again, this is a myth. Take my friend Amie, for example. She met her “better half” (as she calls him) on a South African adult dating, no strings attached dating website four years ago. They have been married for two years and are currently expecting their first child. Again, this is a prime example of how easily misconstrued adult dating can be.

Just because the people looking for casual sex don’t want to settle down, doesn’t mean they won’t always want to settle down. If you’re the perfect people for each other, of course it will work. Amie and her better half had great luck and great timing… It just goes to show that things can go either way.

“Adult daters spread diseases”

Actually this is most definitely not true, and in fact, this statement makes me incredibly mad. This was a comment left on an adult dating blog I came across, and I left a furious rebuttal, as you can probably imagine.

Adult daters spread diseases? What a ridiculous thing for someone to say. Adult daters know better than anyone the dangers of STI’s and unsafe sex… That’s why they are better at it, and have even managed to make putting on a condom look sexy! Maybe it’s those non-adult daters that should be taking tips from the adult daters?

I’ve heard a lot of things from friends, family, work colleagues, and even people I don’t know as I’ve made my way through South African dating websites, clubs, bars, supermarkets, and even gyms picking up men that I have the best and horniest sex with… I like to think I’m as good a person as any to put an end to the lies and taboo subjects. What do you think? Are there any you think I may have missed out? I’m sure this will create a debate 😉

Oops Casual Sex Dating Mistakes How To Avoid Them

We all make mistakes in the dating world – that’s the whole point of it. You make mistakes and learn from them, going on ahead to have better, more fulfilling relationships and sexual dalliances. That’s the idea anyway… Many of us simply don’t learn from our mistakes.

As a 30-something woman living in South Africa, I have made many dating mistakes, especially on my quest to find someone cool and casual to date. In between enjoying the sun, exploring my beautiful country, trying to maintain a busy working schedule and still having enough time to see the family and keep them happy, I don’t really have time for a “real” relationship. This is the thing about casual dating – it’s not the same as “real” dating, as in dating to find that happy-ever-after… That’s something I wish someone would have told me right at the beginning.

As a single woman, having a fair amount of sexual partners will get you branded with some rather nasty names. This is the first lesson you learn – the first mistake that a lot of men and women make when they delve into the complicated world of casual sex dating. Who’d have thought that sex would have been just as political as relationships?

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This is the first lesson you should learn – be discreet!

What’s the point in shouting about last night’s conquest? You may have met that beautiful man in the Cape Town city center night club and taken him home, but you probably won’t have any intentions of seeing him again, so what’s the point in talking about it? It’s certainly not something you are going to want to bring up with your family or respectable friends… casual dating is something that not everyone accepts.

The second lesson you should learn – broaden your horizons!

I’ve mentioned meeting a guy in a bar and having a great night with him, but there are so many other places that you can meet men (and women) looking for casual, no-strings-attached sex in South Africa. For example, there are a whole host of websites dedicated to finding horny men and women the partner they are looking for… without all the hassle of being open and honest about what they are actually looking for. If you are both on a nsa sex dating site, you are both looking for casual dating, AKA casual sex. What’s the point in opting for the “regular” run-of-the-mill dating websites? You aren’t looking for love, you’re looking for great sex, right?

You could meet the hottest, cutest men and women in the biggest and best South African nightclubs, bars and pubs, but let’s be honest about this; no man is going to openly admit to a woman on the first night they have met that he is just looking for sex tonight. To be honest, the chances of a female offering the same information on the “first date” is slim to none. At least with these casual sex and casual dating websites, you know exactly what you are getting yourself into. There are no misinterpretations, no misread signs, and no mixed messages.

There are a lot of things about casual dating and casual sex relationships that aren’t like “regular” relationships, and this is often overlooked information when you attempt to try your hand at it for the first few times. The trick is to be discreet, be classy and above all else, have fun. What’s the point in doing it otherwise? 😉

7 Facts About Adult Dating Thatll Keep You Up At Night

Adult dating – the seven facts that will surprise you and keep you awake at night. You’ll be surprised at what I unearthed…

I know why you’re here. You know why you’re here. What’s the point in any of us pretending that you’re not looking for no strings attached sex, or casual sex with only the very hottest of women and men. That’s why you’re here, isn’t it? To explore some sort of fantasy that you have?

In fact, this brings me nicely to my first fact about adult dating that will keep you up at night… Let’s jump right on in!

1 – You can explore the very depths of your (and their) fantasies!

NSA or casual sex don’t require all the fluff and frills that regular sex and “dating” brings with it. You don’t need to impress anyone, except for in the bedroom, and for a lot of people, women in particular, sex with someone you don’t really have any intentions of seeing again can put a hold on may inhibitions that they may have had.

I never tried anal sex until my third ever NSA experience. I had met a super hot guy in a New Brighton bar in Port Elizabeth, and we had a few drinks together. I carried on drinking and dancing with my female friends for a while and at the end of the night, he came over and asked me if I wanted to go for a couple of drinks in another bar. We never made it to that other bar… In fact, we ended up at my place just around the corner.

I had been a little tipsy and the moment took us both and I let him do it… It opened some flood gates for me, and I found I actually quite enjoyed it, but I do believe I wouldn’t have ever done it if it hadn’t been for that night… or that guy! 😉

2 – It’s simpler.

It really is. When you go into a new sexual dalliance with someone that you have no expectations of, and don’t want a relationship with, you’ll generally find that the sex is pretty awesome. There’s a lot less in the way of nerves and if it all goes wrong, who cares? You don’t need to see this person again if you don’t want to. There are plenty more fish in the sea, as they say.

3 – Online opens more doors!

If you thought you were successfully at casual NSA dating now, wait until you have tried your hands at the internet dating world. Yes, that’s right – there are a whole bunch of websites that are designed to help you find the perfect date tonight, NSA fun or not. A few minutes signing up and you will be able to scroll your way through a whole bunch of hotties, giving you more options than ever before! Check out lookingforsex.co.za – lots of sexy ZA men and women looking for sex meets and the like.

4 – Meet in public!

This should go without saying really, but if you find yourself a hot date for tonight and plan on having a good time, make sure that you always meet in an open place, in broad daylight, and your friends know where you are going, what you are doing, and where you plan to be heading later on. Safety is key. It’s not rocket science stuff.

5 – The more you learn, the better it’ll be.

That’s right – the more questions you ask her, and the more you try to learn, the more you will learn. This applies to the women out there too – the more questions you ask, the better things will be. Everyone likes something a little different in the bedroom, so you need to take into account that the partner you are enjoying tonight won’t be the same as the partner you enjoyed last night, or last weekend. “Do you like this?” is a good one to ask when trying something new. They’ll soon let you know what the deal is!

6 – Be open minded!

Remember that a lot of people choose to enjoy a lot of different things in the bedroom, so as well as being able to learn and open your mind to new ideas and sexual experiences, you may come across things that you won’t like all that much. For example, if they want to pop a finger into your bum and you’ve never done it before, and don’t want to do it, you have a big decision to make. Never feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do, but at the same time, make sure that you try your hands at something new every once in a while. It won’t hurt! (Much!)

7 – Boyfriends/Girlfriends are out!

I’ll make things simple for you – NSA and casual sex means NOT acting like a boyfriend or a girlfriend. The person you have in your bed right now is more than likely having sex with more than just you, and is likely to leave your bed tonight and find another bed to climb into tomorrow, or next weekend. If you’re the jealous kind, NSA fun probably won’t work for you. There’s a good chance that this WON’T develop into a relationship, regardless of how great your sex is, so save yourself the heartache and remember that this is for your sex life, not your love life!